There seems to be a rift between writers or authors and publishers. First, publishers have to be very careful to take a risk on a new author, and second, their profit margins due to online media and eBooks have gone severely downhill. Yes, there has always been a hard road to getting published, but it is even more so the case today. Let's talk.
Not long ago, I read an interesting piece titled; "8 Ways to Deal with People You Don't Like" David K. William, the Web Writer Spotlight on a writer's blog. It made me consider the challenges I've had in the past with difficult people, and yes, perhaps like you I've read a few books on this topic as well. David writes:
"In a perfect world, each person we interact with in our personal and professional lives would be nice, kind, considerate, mindful, generous, and more. They would get our jokes and we would get theirs. We would all thrive in a convivial atmosphere where no one was ever cross, upset, or maligned."
With any hard to deal with folks, I try to find something in common with them, their hobbies, interests, education, ambitions, fitness, sports, food, wine, intellectual interests. Then you can disagree on other crap but give and receive continued respect.
Now then, there are some writers who are 'socially off' and probably have a hard time dealing with anyone, maybe that is in fact why they are very good writers rather than choosing a different vocation - for them, I'd suggest looking in their own mirror early and often (first) before throwing blame on their social interactions. Please understand, I am not here to judge, rather my goal is to observe and seek wisdom.
Sometimes we need to all take a deep breath and step back, think about what it is like for the other side of the equation. Writers need to chill out and consider the publishers' dilemma, while the publishers need to be cognizant of the author's psyche, and belief system. After all, every writer thinks they have the world's best book and it must be published, while the publisher knows the chances of it being a success are very low, thus a skeptical eye must be caste upon any submitted manuscript.
As a prolific writer, I do see both sides of this issue, and it's unfortunate that this rift is getting wider each year. I wish it were not so, but it is. Please consider all this and think on it.
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